Givers VS Takers

How can you tell the difference between “Givers” and “Takers”? Here’s a simple listing.

Givers Takers
Why shouldn’t I help? Why should I help?
Don’t question motivations Ask “I wonder what they want?”
Ask, “How will this benefit others?” Ask, “What’s in it for me?”
Releasing Controlling
Finds power and peace
in spiritual wisdom
Finds power and peace in externals and things
Willing to be servants Must be “lords”
Follows the flow with insight Appears “In control”
Rolls with the punches Easily overwhelmed
Love unconditionally “Love” conditionally
High capacity for pain Low capacity for pain
Bear pain silently and with patience Whiners Read the rest of this entry »

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Oct
08

“The Wounded Masculine” by Julie Smith

The term masculine I am referring to is the male/sun qualities within each gender. In using it I am not making reference to gender. The masculine qualities are the acting/doing qualities in both men and women. The masculine quality is the seed or idea that is planted in the soil/womb of the feminine. Our masculine quality is our acting out or manifesting ideas in the world that have been created in the feminine. In Jungian psychology, the masculine aspect of the psyche is the animus.

The wounded masculine aspect in our culture and world is evidenced in an abuse of power. It is the male aspect that feels it is not strong enough and so it overcompensates by being aggressive, filled with bravado, and disrespectful of the Read the rest of this entry »

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 ”Children are adept at reading between the lines . . . “  Dr. Richard Grossman.

If we are to create a Brave New World in which we all feel loved, welcomed, valued and secure, we need to learn how to parent our children in a more conscious, enlightened, way. By being more aware  of the messages and signals we are giving out all of the time then maybe more of our children will feel loved and valued and welcomed;  not just by us,  their parents, but by the world in general.

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 Depression and the Subtext of Family Life

                                       by Dr. Richard Grossman

In a previous essay (The Four Questions), I suggested that the four questions—“Who am I?  Do I have any value?  Why doesn’t anybody see or hear me?  Why should I live?”—were answered by young children on the basis of the subtext of the parent—child relationship.  Children are adept at reading between the lines.  Read the rest of this entry »

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Jul
15
Filed Under (Guest Articles) by Ann on 15-07-2008

 ”Life is a sacred journey within which the soul has a destination. Becoming more fully awake is an active choice. Exercising choices reveals the way to awaken to ever-unfolding enlightenment.”   A.J. Mahari. From her website, “Awakening To Enlightenment.”

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Guest Article

                 Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go,  by A. J. Mahari

Life is a series of hellos and good-byes. It is about attaching, connecting, and often separating and then detaching, disconnecting and letting go. In toxic relationships all-too-often one or both participants are not skilled when it comes to limits, boundaries, or letting go. Toxic people get addicted and have issues of neediness that cause them to avoid letting go when a healthier person would run the other way from the sheer emotional pain and suffering alone.

Not all connections are healthy ones. Many people get involved in what are known as toxic unhealthy relationships or even friendships. You can identify a toxic unhealthy relational dynamic when you feel that you are losing yourself to the control, wants, temper, or abuse of another, or if you are the one becoming abusive yourself for whatever reason.

Toxic unhealthy relationships often play out the unresolved wounds of our childhoods. Read the rest of this entry »

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 Most of us  never learned how to  have relationships based on honesty, joy,  and a commitment to both party’s in the relationship,  (any relationship) being and remaining Whole.  If we’re willingly to live more consciously, however, it’s possible to lift our relationships to a whole new satisfying and intimate level. Here are just three of the quotes from an article that will help you achieve this. 

 ”When you are co-dependent you have a secret investment in people being less than they are,  so that you will be able to get away with being less than you are.”

“Unconscious loving thrives on victim-hood.”

“One of the Universe’s strategies is to put directly before you the things you are trying to avoid.”

These are quotes from the excellent “Conscious Loving:”  an extract from a book by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks which can be found on   www.personaltransformation.com/PDF’s/Issue2pdf

Do read it. You have nothing to lose but your dysfunctional, unconscious, dissatisfying relationships!

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