If our relationships keep causing us pain, then it’s almost always a sure sign that we have learned how to relate to other people  in dyfunctional ways, ways we learned during our childhood from our parents, who learned from theirs, who learned from theirs’, and so on, back through the generations.  One day, however, when we are weary of the unhappines our relationships cause us, we see that our behaviour is dysfunctional and unhealthy. That becomes the day we are finally ready to see and acknowledge our wounds. If we also decide to change our behaviour, by seeking to act and relate in healthier ways, it also becomes the day we begin to heal. Then, as we heal, we begin to clear up our own and our family’s karma. We decide that the dysfunction,  the karma, the pain, stops with us. 

If you are ready to see and own your own woundedness, here’s another article to help you see your way through the (alchemical/karmic) “mess.”

 Understanding Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns in Your Family

Many people hope that once they leave home, they will leave their family and childhood problems behind. However, many find that they experience similar problems, as well as similar feelings and relationship patterns, long after they Read the rest of this entry »

We are all on a journey to connect and unify with Source, All That Is/ the Divine. What we discover as we progress, however,  is that there is no real separation between our self and the Divine. We realize that our experience in this plane of existence as a separate individual has been an illusion, a dream.  We come to understand and know that we are All That Is, but are simultaneously  experiencing a collective dream with other divine fragments  in which we  are also separate ”selves.”  What provides us with opportunities to awaken from this collective dream so that we may experience  and express our Divine Self, are trials and difficulties.  These periods of difficulty can initiate us into a higher level of wisdom, strength, joy, freedom and power if we see them for the amazing opportunities they are and make the  changes we need to in order to reach this level. 

 One of our most challenging initiations is when we find we are suddenly being pushed to let go of our birth family or major support group. This happens when we find our self at odds with the accepted ideas, beliefs, ways of thinking, acting and behaving in our main support group. When this happens, don’t waste your energy trying to make the other people in your group change, concentrate on the fact that you have changed and are now ready to experience your life and relationships at a higher vibrational frequency, meaning, you want to experience a greater level of  honesty, joy, freedom, independence, peace, love, fun, harmony,  and/or equality,   Read the rest of this entry »

In this article, I want  to concentrate on the lost sense  of innocence many of us have had taken away from us when we were children due to the  style of parenting we were subject to (ie. unconscious parenting.)   What was  ”given” to us in  place of our inborn sense of innocence, tragically, was a firm conviction in our intrinsic “badness”  or “wrongness.”  By re-claiming our lost innocence now,  however, we can begin clearing  up our personal family karma, and that of our parents and ancestors, so bringing to a halt the endless passing on of  “the  sins of the fathers” down through the generations. 

It’s important to understand that none of us are  born with the belief that we are bad, unworthy or wrong . As innocent children we all believe we are a delight - and so we are. Unhappily, many of us then  begin to  form the wrong idea about who we are and come to believe it is the  incontrovertible truth.     

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