I took this excerpt from an article that is concerned with how to establish healthy boundaries, in order that we may take better care of ourselves. I feel that learning how to care for and nurture ourselves is something that most women really need to learn how to do. Too often we look to other people to do this for us, not realizing that we ourselves need to take responsibility for our own well-being and happiness. The complete article is well worth a look; there is a link to it following the excerpt.

"I have the right to be self-nurturing in relationships. I deserve to love myself unconditionally. I deserve to take care of my own intellectual, emotional and physical needs with no need to become dependent on my relationship partners to meet these needs for me. I deserve to accept myself as a unique person who is different and separate from my partners in my relationships. I deserve and need to be open and honest with myself so that I am constantly in touch with my feelings and emotions so that I do not slip into fantasy or delusion about what is happening in my relationships. I have the need to be open to my inner voice which is the source of my instincts and intuitions so that I can hear the Alarm Bell if my relationships are becoming unhealthy for me. ”   http://www.coping.org/relations/boundar/childb.htm

  Two Life Transforming Questions

by Tina Olivero -

You can only transform an emotion by experiencing the emotion that you wish to transform. If you DENY the emotion or PROJECT the emotion onto another person or if you EAT to numb the emotion or if you DRINK to hide the emotion or if you SMOKE to avoid the emotion or if you use SEX to numb the emotion or if you GAMBLE to avoid the emotion or if you WORK EXCESSIVELY to hide the emotion or if you spend all your time on the phone, watching TV or on the INTERNET to avoid the emotion …THEN… you never get the chance to BE IN THE EMOTION. So if your life is running in cycles and you keep bumping up against the same “stuff”, ask yourself these TWO LIFE TRANSFORMING QUESTIONS: Read the rest of this entry »

Our bodies will heal more quickly and effectively of their illnesses and ailments once it’s understood that it’s actually our soul -our mind, or psyche-  that’s in need of healing.

For too long,  the medical profession has been diagnosing our physical problems  by examining our symptoms and then trying to treat those symptoms. Not enough attention has been given to the causes of our disorders, or the connection between  our physical health, our emotions and our mind,  although there is a growing recognition that some illnesses are  emotional or psychological in origin. * 

In the future,  in the “brave new world” we can bring about if we wish to,   a more enlightened understanding towards our bodies and our physical health will prevail.  Our body’s symptoms and dysfunctions will be perceived as our soul’s, or psyche’s, desperate attempts to communicate its’ pain and dis-ease to our conscious awareness. (It’s important to understand that in the case of the body we are talking about our unconscious mind:  the sleeping, trapped, feminine aspect of our soul, or psyche.) 

Our Soul Issues and Disorders.

Our physical health issues and disorders,  are,  in fact,  our soul issues and disorders. When we understand this,  and look to the pain and conflict that exists inside us, on a soul level, and work to correct and heal those ailments,  our bodies will reflect the new level of soul ease and comfort.  First, however, we need to know how our mind/soul uses our bodies  to express its’ pain and discomfort.

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