To create heaven on earth requires all of us to be willing to make changes, and these changes need to begin with our self! Remember, we need to be the change, before change happens. And one of the most important, indeed urgent, areas that we need to look at and change are the ways we relate to one another; because sadly, most of us, through no fault of our own, have learned patterns of behaviour that are toxic and abusive, at least to some degree.
We have learned these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour from our parents, who learned from their parents, who learned from theirs, and so on, unconsciously passing on unhealthy styles of parenting and behaviour down through the generations. If we are not to pass these painful ways of relating and behaving on to our own children, we have to call a halt now, and let it end with our generation. If we are to accomplish this, however, we are first going to have to take full responsibility for all of our actions and behaviour, including any ways in which we might be allowing, accepting , condoning, or enabling, toxic, abusive, disrespectful, non-honouring behaviours to continue. Read the rest of this entry »
Most of us never learned how to have relationships based on honesty, joy, and a commitment to both party’s in the relationship, (any relationship) being and remaining Whole. If we’re willingly to live more consciously, however, it’s possible to lift our relationships to a whole new satisfying and intimate level. Here are just three of the quotes from an article that will help you achieve this.
”When you are co-dependent you have a secret investment in people being less than they are, so that you will be able to get away with being less than you are.”
“Unconscious loving thrives on victim-hood.”
“One of the Universe’s strategies is to put directly before you the things you are trying to avoid.”
These are quotes from the excellent “Conscious Loving:” an extract from a book by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks which can be found on www.personaltransformation.com/PDF’s/Issue2pdf
Do read it. You have nothing to lose but your dysfunctional, unconscious, dissatisfying relationships!
Throwing off the Control of the Ego.
At some stage in our journey to enlightenment, before we can receive enlightenment* we usually need to undergo a major initiation in which our lower-self personality, passes from being under the control of our ego (the mind-made identity we believe ourselves to be ) and willingly comes under the guidance and leadership of Spirit. This initiation is composed of a series of difficult and painful events which are best described by using the metaphor of Crucifixion, Death and Resurrection. It is, quite simply, a test of our spiritual Mastery, and it only presents itself when we are ready.
When we have emerged from this cycle of events our lower-self personality has been purified of the lower instincts, impulses, desires and emotions, which until this point in our life, have ruled and driven our actions and behaviour. Once we are free of the misleading influence of our mind-created ego, we are transformed, re-born, as it were, into a freer, more conscious, joyful, creative and powerful version of our former self. We understand our part in the Divine Plan and are in full possession of the skills, abilities and strengths we need to carry it out successfully.
So, the series of events that make up our personal Crucifixion, Death and Resurrection, are challenges, trials and tests which provide our personality with perfect opportunities to become free of our baser, lower aspects and weaknesses. At the same time, these events also enable us to conquer and master our insistence on asserting our individual will. Instead of following our own personal will, we learn the wisdom of choosing to submit consciously to the Higher, Divine Will and so allowing ourselves to come under the leadership and guidance of Spirit, rather than the dominance and control of the ego.
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