The events of our life and the circumstances we find ourselves in are the direct result of the emotional and mental energy we radiate outwards from our inner being at every moment. Feel anxious and afraid for example,  and you will draw  events into your life  which will allow you to feel even more fear and anxiety.  Think what a horrible life/ job/ home, relationship(s) you have, then you will draw more events to you so that you can experience more of  the  same “reality.”  The trick to creating the reality you want to experience is to imagine, think and feel only what you want to experience. Not what you don’t want.

Basically, our thoughts, beliefs, expectations , imaginings and emotions,  flow outwards from our inner being and shape the events,  dramas and circumstances that we are going to encounter later today, or tomorrow, or next month, or next year.  When we become conscious of the cause and effect relationship between our inner and outer worlds, however, we can move on from believing in the illusion that we are a powerless victim of fate and start to create the life and  reality we choose to experience. 

There are, however, certain feeling-states and ideas that are incredibly powerful. Simply by Read the rest of this entry »

Being Busy Is Not Being Honest

                                                                                                    By PENELOPE  TRUNK

Let’s abolish the word “busy.”

We all have the same 24 hours to fill. Everyone’s are filled with something.

The difference is that the “busy” people feel frenetic during those hours. Those of you who walk around telling everyone how busy you are, get a grip. Make some choices and calm down.

There’s a big difference between a busy day and a full day. The former is so frantic that you aren’t effective.

1. Recognize that a frenetic life is a life half lived. You should aim for “Flow,” a concept from Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, a professor of psychology and education at the University of Chicago and author of the book “Good Business: Leadership, Flow, and the Making of Meaning.” Flow is a unique state of mind where productivity and creativity are at their highest. Csikszentmihalyi says that Flow generates the grand ideas, phenomenal work, and intense, rewarding experiences that people identify with happiness.

Flow occurs when you are fully present and engaged in what you are doing; the concept of time melts away in a commitment to the goal-oriented activity. This feeling requires being occupied and engaged for uninterrupted chunks of your day without ever thinking that you’re rushed for time. People who are busy do not get this feeling.

2. Recognize that you are addicted to being busy. You like what being busy does for you. Read the rest of this entry »

 Workaholism: An Example of the Imbalance of Male/Female Energy.

 Many organizations and institutions  subtly pressure their employees to become workaholics. Some managers and  employers  even expect their  workers to be workaholics. With increasing numbers of people suffering “burn out” and other work/stress related illnesses and problems the health sectors have grown more concerned attempting to determine whether workaholism is an addiction, a symptom or an illness. Whatever the answer,  workaholism (see definition of workaholism at end of article) appears to be highly detrimental, physically, mentally and emotionally, to those  who suffer from it. 

Seen from a  spiritual perspective, however,  workaholism is a more extreme example of the current imbalance that Read the rest of this entry »

Letting Go

To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring;
It means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off…
It’s the realization that I can’t control another…
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning  from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try and change or blame another, Read the rest of this entry »

To create heaven on earth requires all of us to be willing to make changes, and these changes need to begin with our self! Remember, we need to be the change, before change happens. And one of the most important, indeed urgent,  areas that we need to look at and change are the ways we relate to one another; because sadly, most of us, through no fault of our own,  have learned patterns of behaviour that are toxic and abusive, at least to some degree.

We have learned these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour  from our parents, who learned from their parents, who learned from theirs,  and so on, unconsciously passing on unhealthy styles of parenting and behaviour down through the generations. If we are not to pass these painful ways of relating and behaving on to our  own children, we have to call a halt now, and let it end with our generation. If we are to accomplish this,  however, we are first going to have to take full responsibility for all of our actions and behaviour,  including any ways in which  we might be allowing, accepting , condoning,  or enabling,   toxic, abusive, disrespectful, non-honouring behaviours to continue.  Read the rest of this entry »

 Who Are You, Really? 

If you can find out who you really are on a soul level, you’ll uncover the unique being you were always intended to be,  before the world and its conditioning inflicted its wounds on you,  and made you ashamed and afraid to reveal who you really are. You’ll also discover your unique place in the overall scheme of things, because in finding your true self,  you’ll also find your unique gift, and the contribution that only you, with your unique combination of characteristics, experiences and abilities,  can offer the world. 

For this to happen,  we need to go in search of ourselves. We need to remove the layers of the false self we have spent years constructing over and around our true,  authentic self: our soul.  So deep are these layers,  and so thorough the conditioning and the wounding we have received, that sometimes just the smallest gathering of threads  of our original,  genuine identity, remain in expression.

When this  is the case,  it’s because our soul has been brutalised almost beyond recognition, so brutalised that it has withdrawn from showing itself, and fallen into deep unconsciousness,  leaving an almost empty space where a strong, confident and unique identity should be. This space, which the false self attempts to fill with a ramshackle  collection of hazy notions about who we are,  leaves us not only uncertain about our identity and place in the world,  but equally uncertain about the kind of treatment we deserve to receive from other people.  In short, we have lost our sense of who we are; we have lost our soul.  So the question we all need to ask ourselves,  is, Do I know who I really am?

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