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Scapegoating - An Insidious Family Pattern of Blame and Shame on One Family Member by Lynne Namka, Ed.D.

Scapegoating is a serious family dysfunctional problem with one member of the family or a social group being blamed for small things, picked on and constantly put down. In scapegoating, one of the authority figures has made a decision that somebody in the family has to be the bad guy. The mother or father makes one child bad and then looks for things (sometimes real, but most often imagined) that are wrong. There are different reasons one child is singled out to be scapegoated. Perhaps the child is vulnerable. Or the child is hyperactive, noncompliant or acts out. Sometimes the scapegoated child is viewed as weak who cannot defend himself. At times Read the rest of this entry »

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 ”Children are adept at reading between the lines . . . “  Dr. Richard Grossman.

If we are to create a Brave New World in which we all feel loved, welcomed, valued and secure, we need to learn how to parent our children in a more conscious, enlightened, way. By being more aware  of the messages and signals we are giving out all of the time then maybe more of our children will feel loved and valued and welcomed;  not just by us,  their parents, but by the world in general.

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 Depression and the Subtext of Family Life

                                       by Dr. Richard Grossman

In a previous essay (The Four Questions), I suggested that the four questions—“Who am I?  Do I have any value?  Why doesn’t anybody see or hear me?  Why should I live?”—were answered by young children on the basis of the subtext of the parent—child relationship.  Children are adept at reading between the lines.  Read the rest of this entry »

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 ”Finding  your truth and acting on it

regardless of how others might react

is the benchmark of personal sovereignty.

Such  action

requires the ability to create and hold boundaries.”

 from “On the Nature of Boundaries” - Tom Kenyon.http://tomkenyon.com/natureofboundaries/

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“Stand In Your Power”

by A. J. Mahari

“In this world there will always be some people who, for whatever constellation of reasons, need to tear down others in order to feel okay about themselves. There will always be people that cross our paths to criticize us and to attempt to dump a chunk of their own lostness, brokenness, and negativity upon us. Read the rest of this entry »

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Jul
15
Filed Under (Guest Articles) by Ann on 15-07-2008

 ”Life is a sacred journey within which the soul has a destination. Becoming more fully awake is an active choice. Exercising choices reveals the way to awaken to ever-unfolding enlightenment.”   A.J. Mahari. From her website, “Awakening To Enlightenment.”

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Guest Article

                 Toxic Relationships and The Need to Let Go,  by A. J. Mahari

Life is a series of hellos and good-byes. It is about attaching, connecting, and often separating and then detaching, disconnecting and letting go. In toxic relationships all-too-often one or both participants are not skilled when it comes to limits, boundaries, or letting go. Toxic people get addicted and have issues of neediness that cause them to avoid letting go when a healthier person would run the other way from the sheer emotional pain and suffering alone.

Not all connections are healthy ones. Many people get involved in what are known as toxic unhealthy relationships or even friendships. You can identify a toxic unhealthy relational dynamic when you feel that you are losing yourself to the control, wants, temper, or abuse of another, or if you are the one becoming abusive yourself for whatever reason.

Toxic unhealthy relationships often play out the unresolved wounds of our childhoods. Read the rest of this entry »

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Mar
26
Filed Under (Quest For The Soul) by Ann on 26-03-2008

 Who Are You, Really? 

If you can find out who you really are on a soul level, you’ll uncover the unique being you were always intended to be,  before the world and its conditioning inflicted its wounds on you,  and made you ashamed and afraid to reveal who you really are. You’ll also discover your unique place in the overall scheme of things, because in finding your true self,  you’ll also find your unique gift, and the contribution that only you, with your unique combination of characteristics, experiences and abilities,  can offer the world. 

For this to happen,  we need to go in search of ourselves. We need to remove the layers of the false self we have spent years constructing over and around our true,  authentic self: our soul.  So deep are these layers,  and so thorough the conditioning and the wounding we have received, that sometimes just the smallest gathering of threads  of our original,  genuine identity, remain in expression.

When this  is the case,  it’s because our soul has been brutalised almost beyond recognition, so brutalised that it has withdrawn from showing itself, and fallen into deep unconsciousness,  leaving an almost empty space where a strong, confident and unique identity should be. This space, which the false self attempts to fill with a ramshackle  collection of hazy notions about who we are,  leaves us not only uncertain about our identity and place in the world,  but equally uncertain about the kind of treatment we deserve to receive from other people.  In short, we have lost our sense of who we are; we have lost our soul.  So the question we all need to ask ourselves,  is, Do I know who I really am?

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