I found this article about a particular relationship drama (the victim - rescuer drama) that I know applies to sooooooo many people. It’s a drama that I personally identify with, although I am now - happily for me -  a recovering rescuer! So, if any of you  are still dancing the rescuer dance, take a tip from me and hand responsibility back to whoever is looking to you to fix their problems/life. You might lose a friend, partner or relative, when you refuse to continue “playing  the  game” but you will  have gained a brand new - not to mention, freer and more enjoyable - life for yourself. Anyway,  as this article suggests, “Stop Being Blamed and Start Creating  an Incredible Life.”

The article is entitled,”Take Back Your Personal Power,” and you’ll find it on a blog ( for 7th July 08) entitled “Enlightenment.” The address is: 

http://iamlight2.blogspot.com/

 Most of us  never learned how to  have relationships based on honesty, joy,  and a commitment to both party’s in the relationship,  (any relationship) being and remaining Whole.  If we’re willingly to live more consciously, however, it’s possible to lift our relationships to a whole new satisfying and intimate level. Here are just three of the quotes from an article that will help you achieve this. 

 ”When you are co-dependent you have a secret investment in people being less than they are,  so that you will be able to get away with being less than you are.”

“Unconscious loving thrives on victim-hood.”

“One of the Universe’s strategies is to put directly before you the things you are trying to avoid.”

These are quotes from the excellent “Conscious Loving:”  an extract from a book by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks which can be found on   www.personaltransformation.com/PDF’s/Issue2pdf

Do read it. You have nothing to lose but your dysfunctional, unconscious, dissatisfying relationships!

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