To create heaven on earth requires all of us to be willing to make changes, and these changes need to begin with our self! Remember, we need to be the change, before change happens. And one of the most important, indeed urgent,  areas that we need to look at and change are the ways we relate to one another; because sadly, most of us, through no fault of our own,  have learned patterns of behaviour that are toxic and abusive, at least to some degree.

We have learned these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour  from our parents, who learned from their parents, who learned from theirs,  and so on, unconsciously passing on unhealthy styles of parenting and behaviour down through the generations. If we are not to pass these painful ways of relating and behaving on to our  own children, we have to call a halt now, and let it end with our generation. If we are to accomplish this,  however, we are first going to have to take full responsibility for all of our actions and behaviour,  including any ways in which  we might be allowing, accepting , condoning,  or enabling,   toxic, abusive, disrespectful, non-honouring behaviours to continue.  Read the rest of this entry »

 ”Children are adept at reading between the lines . . . “  Dr. Richard Grossman.

If we are to create a Brave New World in which we all feel loved, welcomed, valued and secure, we need to learn how to parent our children in a more conscious, enlightened, way. By being more aware  of the messages and signals we are giving out all of the time then maybe more of our children will feel loved and valued and welcomed;  not just by us,  their parents, but by the world in general.

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 Depression and the Subtext of Family Life

                                       by Dr. Richard Grossman

In a previous essay (The Four Questions), I suggested that the four questions—“Who am I?  Do I have any value?  Why doesn’t anybody see or hear me?  Why should I live?”—were answered by young children on the basis of the subtext of the parent—child relationship.  Children are adept at reading between the lines.  Read the rest of this entry »

- and the day came when the risk

to remain tight in a bud was more

painful than the risk it took to blossom

- Anais Nin.

Our bodies will heal more quickly and effectively of their illnesses and ailments once it’s understood that it’s actually our soul -our mind, or psyche-  that’s in need of healing.

For too long,  the medical profession has been diagnosing our physical problems  by examining our symptoms and then trying to treat those symptoms. Not enough attention has been given to the causes of our disorders, or the connection between  our physical health, our emotions and our mind,  although there is a growing recognition that some illnesses are  emotional or psychological in origin. * 

In the future,  in the “brave new world” we can bring about if we wish to,   a more enlightened understanding towards our bodies and our physical health will prevail.  Our body’s symptoms and dysfunctions will be perceived as our soul’s, or psyche’s, desperate attempts to communicate its’ pain and dis-ease to our conscious awareness. (It’s important to understand that in the case of the body we are talking about our unconscious mind:  the sleeping, trapped, feminine aspect of our soul, or psyche.) 

Our Soul Issues and Disorders.

Our physical health issues and disorders,  are,  in fact,  our soul issues and disorders. When we understand this,  and look to the pain and conflict that exists inside us, on a soul level, and work to correct and heal those ailments,  our bodies will reflect the new level of soul ease and comfort.  First, however, we need to know how our mind/soul uses our bodies  to express its’ pain and discomfort.

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This article was originallypublished in “The Heart of Healing—Inspired Ideas, Wisdom and Comfort from Today’s Leading Voices.” Elite Books, Author’s Publishing Cooperative, Santa Rosa, CA, 95403. © Allan Hardman, 2005

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Introduction

Romantic relationship has been both a blessing and nightmare for many people in this new millennium. In the past, the rules of relationship were relatively structured and well enforced by families and cultures. Many relationships were based on the need for security and financial well-being in an uncertain world. Often, mates were chosen based on others’ expectations, class, race, or religious backgrounds.

Now, with financial independence being available to most, and ethic and cultural distinctions blurring, men and women are left more to their own discernment and integrity for choosing mates and establishing the rules and expectations of relationship. Along with this freedom has come increasing confusion and uncertainty in relationships of romance and marriage.

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