To create heaven on earth requires all of us to be willing to make changes, and these changes need to begin with our self! Remember, we need to be the change, before change happens. And one of the most important, indeed urgent,  areas that we need to look at and change are the ways we relate to one another; because sadly, most of us, through no fault of our own,  have learned patterns of behaviour that are toxic and abusive, at least to some degree.

We have learned these dysfunctional patterns of behaviour  from our parents, who learned from their parents, who learned from theirs,  and so on, unconsciously passing on unhealthy styles of parenting and behaviour down through the generations. If we are not to pass these painful ways of relating and behaving on to our  own children, we have to call a halt now, and let it end with our generation. If we are to accomplish this,  however, we are first going to have to take full responsibility for all of our actions and behaviour,  including any ways in which  we might be allowing, accepting , condoning,  or enabling,   toxic, abusive, disrespectful, non-honouring behaviours to continue.  Read the rest of this entry »