Freeing Ourselves From The Underdog Position.

Ascension energies continue to provoke power struggles in  our relationships as many of us are waking up to the fact that we have been dominated, controlled or manipulated, often in quite subtle ways, by people who don’t always have our best interests at heart. These waves of Ascension energy produce within us a powerful desire to experience equality, justice and freedom in all areas of our life. Basically, on a soul level,  we are yearning  to experience democracy in all aspects of life and in all our relationships,  from the personal to the professional,  to the national and the  international. What this means,  is that we  are becoming unwilling and unable to tolerate an unequal balance of power in our relationships. In particular, we no longer want to be the ”underdog.” 

Some of us are  just now waking up to the fact that we have been been controlled or manipulated,   we are seeing imbalances and inequities  that previously we have been oblivious to, or perhaps that we just accepted as being “the way things are.” Whatever the case, many of us are now struggling to free  ourselves from the “underdog” position.  This isn’t easy,  because once  one of the participants in an unequal  relationship refuses to continue to submit passively to another’s  control, a power struggle ensues, and this can be very painful, even traumatic. 

These power struggles are very necessary, however,  they are reflecting the challenge  of the old Masculine, or Patriarchal, version of power,  by the new Sacred Feminine, or ”Goddess ” version of power.  The old version of power  is based on subjugation, supremacy, domination and control, while  the new version is completely democratic in nature.  Put simply, the old power heirarchy  is  in the process of being ousted by our   growing insistence that all relationships operate fairly, with both,  or all participants  in the relationship,  sharing equal power and status. 

What is making underdogs even more determined to break free from those who seek to control, limit  and dominate them, is the  Sacred Feminine energy’s  insistence on personal autonomy and individual freedom. So, if you have been, or are now, involved in an unpleasant power struggle with someone, or more than one person, know that it is your soul that is urging you to free yourself from any kind of  domination, control,  and/or restriction.  For, as  we free ourselves from all forms of unjust control and oppression, we are playing our part in creating a better, fairer future for the world, not just ourselves.

It Isn’t You. It Just Is.

So,  the Ascension energies are testing  all of our relationships, and if there’s any kind of injustice, inequality, or unfairness lurking anywhere, this will be clarified and highlighted for us,  making it clear to us in no uncertain terms,  where,  or to whom,  we have given our power away,  and  where we are occupying an “underdog” status. 

From a higher perspective, in terms of our spiritual evolution,  we are being given an opportunity to level what may have been a very uneven playing field for us in relation to power within our relationships.  The bad news, however,  is that some of us are going through such sudden and rapid Ascension shifts that more than one  of our relationships  are being  ”shed.”  This is causing many people to wonder what the heck is going on with us. Is it all our fault? Is it all the other person’s fault? Is it the Ascension?

Well,  if this has happened to you it’s more than likely the Ascension. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s really all just a question of your energy transmuting to a higher level, which means you are no longer compatible to some of the people you’ve been in relationship with,  even if  that relationship  might have worked well for  a long time.  The fact is,  we are all changing and evolving, but we are doing this at different speeds, so if you are evolving more rapidly than those around you you’ll suddenly find you can’t relate to people in the same way as before.  They  no longer match who you are now on an inner level,  so you aren’t going to  get along any more. 

It  isn’t about who’s right or wrong, who’s good or bad, it’s about changes in your energy and therefore changes in your perception,  and in what you want and need in a relationship. It’s also about what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable, valuable or worthless. For, as we evolve, we develop higher, more loving and respectful relationships with ourselves, we also develop a greater need for freedom.  We need to be free to express ourselves more fully and more widely. This quite literally forces us to leave relationships  in which we are not valued and respected as equals,  and/or which don’t allow us to express ourselves fully and freely.    

Souls Seeking Freedom Joy and Love.

People who have ascended  are seeing through the injustices and inequalities of the old Masculine, patriarchal, ways of living and relating to others. They are  souls who are now actively  seeking loving and fair relationships; they are rebelling against control and coercion,  seeking freedom to express who they truly are, wanting to live in a manner that makes them feel happy and fulfilled.  So, if you have been feeling guilty or unhappy because some of your relationships have broken down,  you need to think about the nature of the broken or troubled relationship. Maybe you really needed to free yourself from it, or become more detached from it,  so that you could form a higher kind of relationship with  people who value you more, or who don’t want to inhibit, control,  or own you.   

Our Relationships Are Testing Us.  

All relationships need now to be operating at a higher vibrational level, meaning, they need to be operating to everyone’s  mutual respect and benefit. If this is not the case, then the relationship will eventually break down.  So, all our relationships are being tested and weighed. If they don’t meet the higher standards  of the Ascension energy, this will soon show up. 

For example, in an undemocratic relationship  where one of the members is being controlled by another, what will happen is that the person who holds the least power (the underdog) will be exploited more blatantly, controlled more strictly,  until eventually they find themselves being required to endure greater and greater levels of subjugation and unfairness, forcing them to either stand up for themselves and fight for their equal rights,  walk away, or allow themselves to be completely dominated, or owned by the other person. (Of course, this scenario will also be played out in families, nations, or any groups of people in which there is unfairness and an imbalance of power.  Think of the situation in Zimbabwe between the leader Robert Mugabe and the people, and the relationship between China and occupied Tibet.  Both oppressors attempt to tighten their grip and control in the face of growing protest by the oppressed.)

Power struggles serve as  tests for us in which we can see how much unfairness and oppression,  or  maybe disrespect or neglect,  we are willing to tolerate and submit to,  before we begin to assert our equal rights and  re-claim our power and autonomy. You could say they are  tests of how much we  support, honour and love ourselves. Most people, I have found,  who are finding themselves in the middle of a power struggle,  often feel as if they are having to battle to save their soul. They feel as if they are being asked to live under an unjust regime, or an unfair set of rules.  When this is felt, the relationship either has to change for that person or they will walk away from it. 

Unequal Relationships Serve As Catalysts For Change. 

Whatever happens in the relationship, however,  the important thing is that we change. The power struggle in the relationship is really only serving  as a catalyst for us to transmute our energy onto a higher level.  It is we who  need to learn how to relate to others in a new and higher way, we who need to learn about control and power, about respecting  and honouring,   both our own,  and other people’s,  rights and equal status. 

 If we don’t use this kind of experience to lift our own standards of behaviour,  and the expectations we hold regarding relationships, we haven’t learned what we need to learn. If that is the case, we will enter new relationships which will soon mimic the old,  unequal ones, again providing us with more opportunities to attempt to establish relationships according to  more  democratic and enlightened  principles. 

When we settle for nothing less than respect and  equal status  with those we are in relationship with,  we will receive that and only that, but it will inevitably involve a struggle, because some people want power and supremacy over others much more than they want equality.  Yet, we will receive the gifts we will have earned through our courage and determination to live at a higher, more evolved level: the gift of relationships that provide us with more loyalty, respect and  love, and which enable us to give our loyalty, respect and love without fear of being exploited. 

We Will All Gain From The Ascension Process.

The Ascension energies will not allow us to remain at the old, oppressive, Masculine, pre-Ascension,  levels of behaviour. We are reaching the stage where it will no longer be possible  to  live under any illusions about ourselves,  the people we’re in relationship with, or indeed, the circumstances in which we live from day to day.  Our eyes are being opened to the truth and the reality of things.  We are being asked to see everything in a clearer, much more focused way than ever before, and this , for some of us,  can be uncomfortable viewing.

It’s uncomfortable because we will often rather stay with what is, or who is,  familiar and uncomfortable, than stride off into the unknown, on our own, in  search of more comfort, equality and joy. It takes courage and a trust in the Universe that we’re often  not convinced we possess. Even so, we can’t stay still, and we certainly can’t go back to “old” ways.  We are all being challenged to take full responsibility for our lives, and the kind of relationships that we allow into  our life. 

Whatever happens, however, know that you are being guided every step of the way, and that the turbulence you experience in your life is because you are being pushed and pulled towards a more beautiful shore. Every single one of us is going to gain from the Ascension process, even though it may seem for quite a while that everything is going exactly the opposite way we want it to. All you really have to do is hang on and hold on and go with the flow. Let change happen and trust that you will get to the other, more beautiful shore.

The Point Of Our Struggles and Lessons

The whole point of our struggles  is to understand that there is a higher and better way for us to do things, a higher way to live, a better kind of relationship than what we may have become accustomed  to.  We are being made to look at how we relate to other people: how we treat others and how they treat us,  only so that we may move towards more joy, respect, freedom, and love. 

The Ascension energies require that we take back any power that we have given away to other people, or that we have allowed them to take - sometimes, inadvertently, or unconsciously.  So, if doing what someone  else wants us to do is not in our best,  or highest interests, we will find that we  now have to speak up for ourselves and do something about it, instead of allowing ourselves to be controlled.

Don’t Avoid.

Sometimes, we try to avoid confrontation with other people because we don’t know how to assert ourselves firmly but gently. We  think we have to shout,  or be intimidating or threatening to make ourselves heard, or be taken seriously.  We hope that the  person who controls or dominates us will one day realize they’re being unfair to us and voluntarily  give us what we want and need. Usually,  this never happens,  simply because Ascension energies require us specifically to acknowledge, own and use our power. Waiting for someone to give us our power, our basic human rights and entitlements,  defeats the object of the lesson. We have to summon our courage and take what is ours by right. Not by force, but by refusing to comply with, or be complicit in, anyone else’s  attempts to  control, dominate, or coerce us. We can assert what we want quietly, clearly and with dignity, and if those who profess to care for us won’t listen we can leave, painful though that may be.

 Taking Better Care Of Ourselves

The bottom line is that the Ascension energies are forcing us all to learn how to  take better care of ourselves. Not in the old “patriarchal” way, in which we were encouraged to be “top dog,”  to gain supremacy and  be in control, to be  more powerful, more wealthy, more influential, more whatever . .  than other people; but in a new, more enlightened way. A way which allows for greater equality and harmony to exist between us all.  We just need to go along with these changes, rather than resisting them, or being afraid of them. At the end of the day, if you’ve found this website, you are strong enough to make it through. You will also have earned the new more powerful, “higher version, ” of  yourself,  and the “higher version” life you will draw to yourself because of the transformation you will have undergone.