The Rule of the Ego.

When we attempt to control anyone or anything it’s because we ourselves are under the control of our ego, which is very dominating and controlling. Our ego is that part of our conscious mind ( that voice that’s always chattering in our head ) that’s always comparing, judging, and commenting on everything, as well as always telling us what we should and need to be doing if we want to  survive, be safe, successful,  admired, happy, loved, secure etc. etc. etc.

Basically, our ego controls and dominates our lower self, which is comprised of our physical body, our emotional body, or aura, and our lower,  mental body, or aura.  Spirit, that aspect of our being that is still connected to the Divine, or All-That-Is,  resides on the causal, or fifth astral plane. Spirit  has control over our higher, mental aura, which exists on the fourth astral plane. Our lower, mental “body,”  or aura,  exists on the third astral plane,  while our emotional”body” exists on the second plane. Naturally, of course, our physical body exists on the physical, material,  plane.

At  a certain stage in our journey to enlightenment,  or on our journey to live as our true, authentic self, we need to free ourselves from the rulership of our tyrannical ego. When we achieve this, all parts and aspects of ourselves, both physical and non-physical, are then  able to come under the leadership of spirit and we begin to manifest and live as our soul, our  higher self. 

Once we attain this level of wisdom and perception,  we understand ourselves as co-creators with the Divine. In contrast, our ego has set itself up as a rival to the Divine, it wants to control and have dominion over everything and everyone. (Incidentally, I”ll be posting an article  soon on the initiations we need to undergo for this  transfer of leadership to occur from ego to spirit.)

Let Go and Trust.

Our attempt to exert any kind of control over events  is ego-based behaviour. It arises from our fear that our goals, needs and welfare won’t or can’t manifest unless we ourselves  do something to ensure they do.  A major turning point in our spiritual life occurs  when we step back and trust the Universe to provide all that we need.  We come to realize that this world is the Goddess, our Great Mother, who contains, sustains and nourishes us at every moment, if we would just acknowledge this and allow it to “be. ” Until we do this, we exhaust ourselves in our attempts to manage and control every aspect of our lives, and often the lives and experiences of our loved ones.

So, instead of trying to control and manipulate events  to work out the way we want them to,  either in relation to our own life or that of our loved ones, we need to do the exact opposite. We need to let go of our desire to avoid what is happening,  or threatening to happen, and accept and allow what wants to be, to “be,” trusting that the perfect thing is happening at the perfect time for your, and everyone else’s,  highest good. 

Living As Our Higher Self.

When we  apply this principle of allowing what wants to “be,” or is threatening to “be,” to manifest in our life and in the lives of those we care about, we are  living as our higher self. We are also no longer hindering or obstructing the  unfolding of events that will eventually result in our discovering what part we are to play in the Divine plan for humanity.  Not to mention, will also allow us to acquire the skills, power, knowledge and wisdom needed to play that part well.

Likewise, when we take a “hands off” approach to other people’s lives, we’re also allowing them the opportunity to play their  part in the higher plan. Instead of  avoiding our own soul lessons, and  interfering, or meddling in other people’s soul lessons and life journey, we have aligned with the Divine, Higher Will. We are co-creators, serving all humanity, not just ourselves and those individuals we are closest to.  

When we allow things to be as they are, and other people  to be who they are,  without acting or intervening to bring about change,  or to bring about  a particular outcome  we would prefer,  we are demonstrating  power through vulnerability. We are demonstrating that we are willing for certain seemingly unpalatable things to happen,  willing to allow relationships, perhaps, to fall away from us, to drop out of our life, because we know that such is the boundless love within which we all exist, that there is something better, higher, and infinitely more suited to us as the Divine Child we know ourselves to be,  that will replace what we seemed to lose.

Our Arrogance.

In the end, it’s arrogant of us to assume we know what needs to happen, or not happen, for the best, in our life. It’s even more arrogant when we believe we know best what’s right for other people as well. We  need to grasp the fact that we are dis-empowering others when we try to take away their difficulties, or solve their problems for them. We  are repeatedly giving them the message that we don’t believe they are capable of overcoming their challenges or trials without our help or intervention.  All that’s really required of us is that we focus on ourselves and what we need to learn,  so that we can fully play our parts in humanity’s evolution, or ascension. 

I recommend you check out exactly what it means to be controlling and manipulating, so that you can identify and pin-point your own, and other people’s,  controlling and manipulative behaviour. There are lots of books and websites devoted to this type of behaviour: how to spot it and relinquish  it.  Try not to judge yourself or anyone else for using this type of behaviour, it’s always learned, and we all have to journey through this stage of life. It is at it is. We do it. We learn not to. We move on.